The only kind of surrender you need to do is surrendering your resistance to change or letting go of your negative mindset.
What I mean by negative mindset is all of your limiting beliefs, past hurts and negative self talk.
When you surrender you gain freedom to heal and transform your life.
Your awesome life and desires are just right outside your comfort zone – hiding in the guise of your resistance.
We have been conditioned to feel safe and secure in our comfort. We stay within the things we were taught to be safe.
In deeper reality, this is a form of resistance that holds us back from having our desired life and reaching our highest potential.
Confessions of a so-called Control Freak
I was never the laid back kind. I used to like being prepared. I always did my assignments in advance.
I read chapters of my major subjects ahead of time. I had advanced school notes too.
I have everything ready for school from all my stuff, books, uniform, allowance and down to my food.
As a former Editor-in-Chief in College for the Shool newspaper, I also had the whole school paper concept, articles, photos, illustrations, editing and publishing process all planned out.
All the newpapers and literary folio under my term were published smoothly.
My first job was a homebased writer. I always finished all my writing jobs a day before deadline.
Being in control gave me a sense of pride, power and fulfillment. I felt safe.
But what if everything fails and falls apart? That I don’t know.
After homebased writing for 2 years, I needed to earn more. I went out into the world to get a ‘real’ job.
I passed the exams and interview like child’s play.
I did not expect that I would be bullied for doing well and for being the trainor’s favorite.
My fellow trainees made snarky remarks within earshot. They made disapproving facial expressions and it hurt.
I had no control over how my workmates treated me. I lost control of my expected results and I failed at my corporate job for the first time.
It hurt devastatingly. I was broken. I lost myself – the person who used to have everything together.
Work was stressful. The travel was tiring. I just put on whichever clothes I pull out of my closet.
Life became uncontrollable. I shut the world out.
I constantly had earphones on. I listened to music almost all the time. It was my barrier.
I hid behind books too. I made less interaction.
I was traumatized by bullying. So much that I kept myself on low profile at work. I made myself small just to appease any workmate.
I became skeptic and paranoid. I walked on eggshells because people might get at me. I had anxiety and cried all the time.
I was detached from everyone. This way, they can never hurt me. All these control that I’ve tried to hold on to never helped me. I was stuck living aimlessly.
Happily in Surrender and Chilling Out
When I became a new mom, the emotional breakdown I had taught me complete surrender.
I rediscovered an in depth understanding of Law of Attraction. I started applying it in my life.
I also surrendered to Jesus. I read God’s Word. I prayed and talked to God all the time.
I had Bible study and watched The 700 Club Asia.
I sang and played worship songs. My workmates started asking me how I can still smile with all the stress. I simply answered: “I accepted Jesus in my life.”
I can’t imagine a life without God. My soul is healthy and full.
God gave me the right people, music, movies, food, books or audio books, videos, social media news feeds and everything I need.
Things started looking up. I worked well and earned more.
I was peaceful and found inner happiness. Everything came at the right time.
I no longer worry if my plans didn’t seem to work out.
I know I am guided into something better. I am supported and protected. I am loved.
I am God’s child. I am a child of the Universe. I am victorious in God’s love. We all are.
My life has never been happier.
Now who’s ready for the million dollar or pesos (any currency, really. Just Kidding.) question?
How do we surrender?
1.Visualize. Wake up saying silently to yourself thank you God/Universe for this happy day.
Smile. Stretch your arms and legs a bit. Quickly imagine a good day.
See yourself in a smooth travel to school or work, a pleasant interaction with others, peaceful travel home, nourishing food and restful sleep.
Let go of what happens and be ready for happy surprises.
2. Focus on the Good and Funny side. If things happen differently from what you visualized, write in your journal or do a quick reflection in your mind.
What is this circumstance or person teaching me?
What’s the good thing about this? What can I do about this?
What’s funny about this?
This breaks the negative pattern and shifts you to positivity.
In reflection and finding humor in the situation, it allows you to just shrug it off.
It helps you say oh well and move happily along.
You get to have more time and energy for productive things.
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